As with many things in life, make-up is completely optional.
There’s absolutely no rule that says women have to wear it and no rule that says men cannot. You do you.
Despite this, we all know there can be pressure in society to look a certain way – especially on your wedding day.
One man has recently caused a stir online after explaining that his wife refuses to wear make-up and this is causing issues for them.
The unnamed husband took to Reddit to share how there are times when he thinks it’s “expected/appropriate” for her to wear make-up but she doesn’t want to, such as on their wedding day.
In a post on the Am I The A**hole forum, the man revealed how family members told his bride she would look better in wedding photos if she wore a little make-up – and after getting the pictures back, he couldn’t help but agree.
He said: “My (32M) wife (29F) and I have been together for five years, married for just over two. One issue that’s cropped up over our entire relationship is her refusal to ever wear make-up. I think she’s beautiful without it, but there have been times and occasions where it was expected/appropriate for her to wear make-up and she refused.
“For example, she didn’t wear any make-up on our wedding day. Both of our mothers tried to convince her, but she said she’s never worn make-up and she wasn’t going to start on a day that she was supposed to enjoy.
“They tried to tell her the pictures wouldn’t come out as good, and honestly, they were kind of right – she’s got huge bags under her eyes and I think the photos would’ve been nicer if she’d just put on concealer or something.”
He goes on to say how the make-up is proving a problem for them again as his wife made some comments about not bothering with it while at dinner with his family.
“We were at a family dinner last night with my parents, sister and her husband, and my niece and nephew. My niece is 11 and has just started getting into makeup – she watches lots of YouTube tutorials and stuff like that. She asked my wife at dinner if she ever wore make-up and my wife said ‘no, I don’t bother with it.’
“My niece asked why and she gave a little speech about makeup being a waste of money and that she’d feel like she was lying to herself if she wore it and that she was ‘happy with the face I have.’
“My sister got mad and said that she wore make-up a lot of the time and didn’t feel like she was lying to herself and that it actually made her feel good. My wife responded ‘oh yeah. I bet you could quit anytime you want.’ And then kinda laughed, which set my sister off and let’s just say the rest of the evening was not enjoyable.”
When they got home, he claims he asked his wife to be “less militant” about make-up and told her “it wouldn’t kill her” to wear it.
He adds: “I did accuse her of being overbearing about her stance. She basically said that she never started conversations about makeup but that it’s always other people bugging her to wear it and I said ‘maybe they have a point and you’re being hardline over something really stupid and you need to get over yourself’ and she got upset and called me a d**k for thinking she needed make-up and then we had to go cool down separately.
“AITA for thinking she’s being ridiculous about make-up and telling her to get over her aversion?”
More than 1,000 people have since responded to the post, with many criticising the man for his comments.
One person said: “Did you wear concealer under your eyes at your wedding? I’m just saying, you would have looked a lot better in the pictures if you did.”
Another wrote: “It’s such a disgusting double standard that women have to put on paint to make themselves more attractive to other people but guys can just roll out of bed and expect the world to accept them.
“Until men start wearing make-up regularly and shaving their legs their opinion on whether or not a woman does it does not matter in the slightest.”
A third replied: “You’re the a**hole. She’s content and happy without make-up. You’re the one who isn’t.
“I hate wearing make-up, personally, but I CHOSE to wear some on my wedding day, and I occasionally CHOOSE to put on some eyeliner and lipstick, if it makes me feel pretty. That’s a valid choice. So is wearing it every single day (my mother, for instance, never left the house without her face and hair on point) or wearing it literally never.”
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